I'm not suggesting that domestic violence is OK behind closed doors -- it's not OK at all. But it's no wonder that domestic violence is often passed from one generation to the next, when so often it happens in front of children.
In today's headlines, a domestic violence case that involved at least two murders touches the family of an Oscar-winning actress. Jennifer Hudson's mother and brother were killed. A suspect who hasn't been charged yet is in custody, but police are still looking for Hudson's 7-year-old nephew.
What did that little boy see?
In today's news briefs, three men were booked into the Tulare County Jail in the past two days on domestic violence charges, the Tulare County Sheriff's Department reported. In two of those three cases, the attacks are alleged to have happened in front of 2-year-olds.
Earlier this week, I chose an op-ed piece by Robert Kelly-Goss that describes his personal experience with domestic violence, by his stepfather against his mother when he was growing up.
One of the sources he quotes says she is sees young women seek shelter who were once the child of an abused mother. What we are exposed to as children is what we learn to emulate when we become adults.
Don't beat on your partner... period....
It is such a travesty what some kids have to see and live. When its what they see it all they know and they think it is normal. Not only does it cause physical injury but breaks a person self esteem so they dont have the confidence to get out to save theirselves and the children. Words also hurt a person and the kids.
Amen! What exchange of opinion can there be on
common violent crime?
I agree Isabell...and Jackie...and Kim...and with whoever else appears above me by the time this gets posted. I'm sure I'll agree sight unseen.
Perhaps Lisa was wondering, since we seem to argue about anything, if there just might be something we'll all agree on.
As for the topic, I didn't know how lucky I was as a kid growing up until much later when I started to realize what other kids had to endure. Two things outrage me even more than 3 of the people here, *smirk,* and that's someone who beats women and/or children.
Scot
Everybody knows, by now, that I did not spend the earlier years of my life in the United States. I am a Euro. I have known fear, I have seen death caused by bombs, I have known famine, I have known Soviet sodiers and German soldiers killing each other in the streets of my city. I heard the Stalin Organ (some sort of gattling gun) while spending my days in a cellar. But I have never come across the ugliness of spousal abuse. It is a crime and there is nothing to debate. I am sorry!
Isabell, I'm confused, you didn't think I was debating it did you?
And what a horrible childhood for you to have to endure.
My childhood was not horrible because all the adversity was not imposed by common personal criminality. It was war; c'est la guerre. I was loved, sheltered from un-wholesome people. School was normal and expected a lot of us. What was ugly was the occupation, but by then I was no longer a child, and I went to live in England with a Jewish friend of the family who fled from the Hitler regime.
I was just surprised that the beehive would put the subject on the table because, like you said, there can be only one opinion.
Not every post that we put up on the Beehive is intended to start a back-and-forth debate. I wasn't expecting to hear from any abusers defending their right to beat up on their partner.
(An interesting aside to that, however, is that I did once receive a heated dissenting opinion in response to a column I did on the subject of domestic violence, telling me how full of crap I was for encouraging victims of abuse to get out of that kind of relationship.)
Sometimes we are motivated to write about things in the news that move us. I agree, there's only one side to the domestic violence issue -- don't do it.
Lisa Maria Boyles
Don't feel bad. We all gave our Amen to the don't do it. And as for the other (and I am laughing hard) You could post: My name is Lisa Maria Boyles; and some blogger would tell you to cut out the crap. It's not that your name were an issue. But that particular moron blogger had the urge to say "cut out the crap."