Once upon a time, Jason Mesnick seemed like he would be a classier "The Bachelor." He's a divorced father of a young son. He understood heartache. He not only had a failed marriage, but "Bachelorette" DeAnna Pappas rejected his proposal last year, breaking his heart. His sincerity and earnest nature landed him this gig.
Well, DeAnna's choice of Jesse Csincsak didn't last, but she's also better off without Jason. Because Jason is a jerk. Let me restate that: Jason is a big, stupid J-E-R-K.
Living up to its hype as "the most dramatic finale" in the show's history, wishy-washy Jason on Monday's climax proposes to Melissa Rycroft (the poor woman shown here) ... and then, on the "After the Final Rose" show, tells the host he's made a mistake and wants to dump her. He's in love with runner-up Molly Malaney.
What the ?!?!?!
There had been rumors on the Internet that this was going to happen. But seeing it unfold was unbelievable. How does this guy tell one woman (Molly) that he can't imagine ever letting her go but "I have to." Molly, who possessed an incredible degree of grace at her rejection, keeps telling him (and later to the camera in the limo) that he's making a huge mistake. Cut to Jason, who walks out onto a terrace and sobs like a big baby. And then he says, get this, "and now I just hope I made the right decision."
What the ?!?!?!
Jason makes the dramatic, emotional proposal to Melissa, telling her he's "completely" in love with her and that he's the "happiest man in the entire universe."
And then it all falls apart on the after show, which was filmed six weeks after the proposal. If we're to believe what we're told, Jason hasn't talked to her about his misgivings until this show (nor had he seen or talked to Molly). "We're not right for each other," he says of Melissa.
Melissa isn't having any of this. She thought things were perfect. She's angry and hurt by this revelation. And Jason pours it on about how he feels about Molly. Remember, Melissa was the one who said during the series that she's always been the dumpee in relationships.
"You're such a bastard," she says, under her breath. "Why did you put a ring on my finger?"
"Because that day I wanted to give it everything," Jason says. Can this guy be any more pathetic? He might as well just give her the stock "it's not you, it's me" speech. That's usually the one that dumpers pull out of their butts hats at moments like this.
My first thought at this point: How the hell are you going to explain all this to your young son? Is this how you treat women?
Jason insists to the host that he didn't lie to Melissa about anything. Oh really? He's digging a deeper and deeper hole of denial. If Molly (seen here) had half a brain, she would have fled the studio in search of Mickey Rourke. At least that guy almost won an Oscar.
But Molly doesn't have a brain. She mistakes his change of heart as a sign of their destiny. Doesn't matter that he put her though a hell of pain by proposing to someone else. I mean, if he loves her so much, why didn't he propose to her?
All this brings me to the much-hyped DeAnna appearance. It lasted 4 minutes and was anti-climactic. She made some lame statements about how she picked the wrong guy. She says if she'd chosen him, it would have worked. Awkward pause. Jason's clearly moved on. So DeAnna tells him to look beyond just what his heart says. In other words, don't mistake lust for a real relationship.
But Jason is a big, stupid jerk. He wants the fun-loving gal with the eyes he can't forget. Oh, and they both play golf. That will make for a strong bond.
Best moment of the night came from an ad for Jason's appearance later Monday on "Jimmy Kimmel Live!" The snippet includes Kimmel telling Jason that he hopes a marriage takes place "but I'm pretty confident that it won't."
Ditto, Jimmy. Ditto.
never watched the show before. Had no idea what was going on, but I have to agree with you. That guy just made himself look like a total moron. Can't believe I just saw that actually. And I really can't believe the second girl didn't laugh at him and walk away. It was surreal, to say the least.
Thank goodness Kimmel called it like it really is.
I have no sympathy for any woman who goes on a tv show looking for love, most of them are looking for the spotlight. Seriously who finds real love on a made up show.
LOL!!! I didn't wantch the show but I enjoyed reading your recaps Felicia. I couldn't help myself but laugh everytime I read "he's a divorced father of a young son." Like that was suppose to make him special or something. I think we may have figured out why he's divorced. If this guy put a bad taste in your mouth, then he really must be an a$$.
@bulldog77: I totally agree. But it's still pretty despicable for this immature creep to treat both women this way. (This now explains why he's already been married once. I can see this guy's thinking: "Gee, I'll dump Melissa and then make a play for Molly and, heck, if that doesn't work out there's the other 23 contestants to try out again.")
The only upside of this saga is that this "decent" guy's reputation has been thoroughly thrashed. He is -- and ever will be -- a big, stupid jerk.
"It's not you, it's me...in fact, it's ALL about me."
Newest member of the George Costanza fan club.
Jason is every mans hero!!!...jumping from one beautiful woman to the next!!....spank, spank, spank!!!!!!...you the man Jason....you the man!!!!!!!!!!!
I don't watch the show so my opinion really doesn't count for much ... but I'll offer it anyway. I don't think the women should be surprised, or get much sympathy, after all they went on a show where they "compete" for a guy who is dating dozens of women - in front of them - at the same time. I've never understood it and really don't believe anyone's heart was really broken. I think it's just a job.
Jason is a big chicken! He is scared of commitment as his track record, now, clearly shows. Molly is an idiot and second choice.She seemed classier than that but I guess if you lay with dogs etc....and she did LAY with him. How in the heck does he think in 6 weeks his feeling could have changed so drastically? was the sex with Melissa soooo bad? He will never commit. He is a useless waste of space. I feel sorry for the example he has set for his little boy, Ty. Too think we felt sorry for this jerk when he was dumped by Deanna. Way to go Deanna!!
Well ABC lost a viewer after watching Jason make a fool outof Melissa on national televison. This man needs a mental evaluaton before he ruins the life of another woman. Watch out Molly he going dump you, and say he loves Jillian next. I will never watch The Bachelor again!
Jason your such an ass, hope your ex-wife gets custody of Ty. As for you Molly I feel sorry b'cause he just loves how you kiss, its all sexual attraction. Jason you let go of a real good girl MELISSA she didn't deserve this, hope karma bites you in the ass. Ty has such a bad example of what a real man is, to think all America was drooling over how such a nice, sweet guy you were.
MELISSA be strong at the end you will find prince charming, pls I beg be more cautious with guys & DO NOT be the next bachelorette that is a dumb show, they lost another viewer after what this people did to you, I LOVE YOU your the best #1 ... GOD WILL REWARD ALL THIS PAIN, I PROMISE! I will keep you in my prayers always!
Jason is a jerk, a big, big jerk! I don't think this show really has any credibility or track record that it can lead to true love and Jason is exactly the reason why. He had the sympathy of so many women going into the show after being dumped by DeAnna Pappas on The Bachelorette, but he blew that out of the water when he showed his true colors. Why would did he go through the effort of putting a ring on Melissa's finger and recite that phony love speech ("the happiest man in the universe") if he wasn't sure? That poor woman! He didn't need to propose to her, other bachelors in past seasons didn't, if he was unsure. And that Molly chick, she should have turned Jason down giving him a taste of his own medicine. She agreed to sloppy seconds making women look stupid and desperate.
I wonder how he is going to react tonight when they bring DeAnna in to talk to him?
Fallout is continuing, I just read another story about this on Yahoo....
@Tracy: Good point that he didn't have to propose to anybody. He makes Brad Womack -- who infamously rejected DeAnna Pappas and another woman in one fell swoop -- look like a diplomat in comparison.
Jason has issues. I'm sure that as soon as the magic fades with Molly, he'll be by himself again. Just as he deserves.
I really wish his first wife would talk about why this guy is such a loser.
Jason has every right to change his mind. But he didn't have to announce it to his fiance ON NATIONAL TELEVISION. My brain hurts, and my a bit of my soul has been hacked away after watching this show. I'm so done. "The Bachelor" is dead to me!
Then again, I contributed to the problem by NOT missing a single episode this season! Ugh.
Zara, it's a classic case of buyer's remorse. I totally relate.
But, it doesn't change the fact that Jason is still a big, stupid jerk.
Good grief it's painful seeing my good name run through the mud like this ;)
Here's my question: If it was appropriate for him to date, propose to, make out with, mess around in the hot tub and lord knows whatever else happens in the fantasy suite with dozens of women on national television, then why is it now inappropriate to break up on national television? It just strikes me as curious to see so many people get religion on privacy at this point. It looks like reality TV just got a little too real for some of you.
@Jason: People are PO'd because of HOW he did this. He cries like a baby, says he was just trying to be honest about his feelings, dumps fiance #1 because "oh gee, it just all changed after the series was over" (i.e. does he mean their physical relationship wasn't right?), then makes the moves on Molly who -- like an idiot -- takes the loser back AFTER he had put her through the emotional wringer. (Yeah, I'm not feeling much sympathy for her, either.)
I understand your point, but this guy wreaked havoc because the "good guy" turned out to be a mental tool/mess of insecurities, flip flops and lack of conviction. He is a big, stupid jerk.
:::whispers:::
is that girl maria REALLY going to pray every day of her life for a reality show person she's never met??
I think I'm going to have to start praying for Maria.
NOTE: To all Felicia fans and readers, I experienced a lovely moment with her at the Rogue Festival.
On discussing her review of 'The Honeymoon Period is Officially Over,' Felicia said she really liked it, but she 'doesn't get too passionate about anything.'
I said "Oh, yes you do! What about 'The Bachelor?!!"
Touche to me. Point Stephen. Hee.
@Stephen: I think a better way to put it is that I don't gush over a lot of things. But, yes, you're right about "The Bachelor." And don't forget "American Idol" is also on my list!
Jason's a prick. I can't wait until this "relationship" hits the skids.
Everyone gets what they should...pain. My hope and wish is that the people that are the bachelor and bachelorett live in pain and hell. They act like they are the only ones that matter and are totaly out for themselves. But I must also say all the women that think this is the greatest of shows, would never in real life stand in line and wait while a guy dates several women and them all at once to see who they want more.
Try telling your girlfriend...hey honey, I really love you but I'm gonna date some more women while you stay home and you better not date anyone else!
These are the dumbest people on earth! If you are one that loves this show, you are pretty much a loser yourself.
Stephen not be rude or anything but I will pray for MELISSA ok... she didn't deserve what that jerk ass of man did to her